March 30, 2006

Keep calm and avoid injury

Good advice: Don't take up a challenging physical task if you're angry.

Recent research suggests that being angry may increase a person's risk of injury nearly seven-fold.

About 63 percent of people surveyed during an emergency room visit showed they were feeling irritable, angry, or hostile at the time they were hurt.

Before taking on a tough physical task, count to 10, breathe deeply, and approach your project with a sense of calm if you wish to reduce your chances of getting injured.

This latest piece of research adds to the growing body of research indicating that chronic anger is not good for your health.

 

Although everyone has temporary states of anger, called "state anger," people who have a regular hostile or angry attitude, called "trait anger," may have an increased risk of arterial aging, high blood pressure, heart attack, stroke, and a depressed immune system.

This recent new research indicatess that state anger increases the risk of injury, especially in men.

The study looked at people who visited an emergency room for treatment of an injury and looked at their feelings just before the injury. Most were angry at the time they were injured.

Some of the best ways to manage your hostile feelings are :deep breathing,yoga or tai chi,regular exercise, keeping a journal,and releasing your frustrations by talking to friend.

It has been suggested that taking care of your emotional health and well-being may make you up to 16 years younger.
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October 22, 2005

10 ways to tell if he's the one

Nikitta A. Foston

IT can happen in the blink of an eye. Attraction. Excitement. Romance. But for too many Sisters who are searching for Mr. Right (not Mr. Right Now), the game of love is a crooked road of broken promises where the coveted jackpot, referred to as "the one," is too late, long-gone or maybe destined to never show at all.

But there is hope.

"Although there is risk in love, there are also great rewards when passion and purpose fall within the right embrace," says Dr. Grace Cornish, author of 7 Spiritual Truths to Recognize and Marry Your Very Own Soul Mate. So before you jump on the twisted path of romance, familiarize yourself with the signs you'll encounter along the way, and recognize which will lead your hopes and heart to the man of your dreams. The following tips should help you gauge the possibilities and help you determine if he's "the one":

* He Listens to You. Before your man opens his heart to you, he has to first open his ears. "Genuine concern manifests itself in listening to the cares, concerns and issues of your woman," says Anthony Woodson, president and CEO of BlackLoveForever.com, a matchmaking service that has resulted in nearly 500 marriages. "A man who wants to be around you for the long-term will be a good listener when you need him. He will be a dependable source of guidance and support and will not turn a deaf ear simply because the problem is too big. If he doesn't know the solution, he will try his best to find one."

* There is a Natural Ease and Flow. Relationship experts say there is a natural chemistry that defines your interaction when you meet your perfect fit. "You don't have to push it, force it, tug it, pull it or cut the edges to make it fit," says Debrena Jackson Gandy, international speaker and author of All the Joy You Can Stand. "There is an undeniable ease and flow to the relationship. You can see it and others around you can as well."


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September 27, 2005

The Female Arousal gap

When making love to themselves, women and men take about the same  time to reach peak sexual arousal—usually four to five minutes. With a partner, however,women tend  to reach peak sexual arousal within a longer span of time.

Masters and Johnson, in Human Sexual Response, created the term "psychosocial distractions" to account for this time delay in women.

They claimed that the presence of a partner creates more opportunities for a woman to interact with both her own mind and her partner. She also may spend some of her time worrying how happy her partner is, rather than paying attention to her own arousal. Processing these thoughts simply lengthens the  time  women take to reach peak sexual arousal.


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The Four Phases of the Female Response Cycle

Noted sex researchers, Masters and Johnson, in their landmark book entitled, Human Sexual Response (1966), defined the human female sexual response cycle has having four phases:
  • Excitement Phase: This phase includes vaginal lubrication, a rise in sexual tension, color changes and expansion of the vaginal barrel.
  • Plateau Phase: This phase includes a marked vasocongestive swelling in the outer one-third of the vagina, accompanied with a feeling of "fullness" or an "aching feeling," vaginal lubrication reaching its full potential, and sexual tension reaching a maximum level before the onset of orgasm.
  • Orgasmic Phase: This phase includes the onset of orgasmic contractions at 0.8 second intervals.
  • Resolution Phase: This phase includes the return of the vagina to its normal state and coloration.
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September 26, 2005

How can I create a loving relationship?

You may still have some fear that is standing between you and the life you desire, and that you’re still holding back from allowing a relationship to be in your life the way that you wish. You may have to reach back into your childhood relationship with your father or mother to resolve deep-seated fears surrounding a relationship.

Ask yourself: What do I have to give up to be in a relationship? How do I lose me when I’m in a relationship? What messages did I receive as a child that created a belief in me that relationships are painful or not forthcoming?

I suggest that you work on loving yourself non-stop. Treat yourself to romance and love. Demonstrate to yourself how special you are. Pamper yourself. Buy yourself flowers, surround yourself with colors, textures, and scents that please you.

Life always mirrors back to us the feelings we have inside. As you grow in an inner sense of love and romance, the right person to share your growing sense of intimacy will be attracted to you like a magnet.
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